One of the most painful things to go through in life is depression. Whether its self inflicted or caused by outside circumstances that we cant control, it can be a tool used for our own benefit or it can be a weapon of our own self destruction. The beautiful thing about life is that we have a choice in every situation, we can sit and despair or we can embrace this much needed time of reflection.
Depression is not the end all be all, it is the very beginning to a beautiful story that can soothe the pain of another. Your story of depression can in fact help you and give a helping hand to another who may be suffering just like you. I want to encourage you to embrace the pain of depression and all that it has to bring. The strength and wisdom that you will gain from it will be more useful to you and others, than if you had never gone through it.
Depression has a way of isolating us, whether we distance ourselves or others distance themselves from us. In the silence of our own agony, we are able to weigh what truly matters in our lives and determine our own self worth. Depression has a way of teaching us to let go, it strips of us of anything that isn’t who we really are. In those moments of solitude, we find out what we are when we are completely naked from anything that we thought gave us our identity and our worth.
Who we are is not defined by what we have or what others think we are, but by who YOU think you are. Nothing you do can truthfully convey who you are to the world. What you do is just that, an action and nothing more. “What we do” is defined by who we are. Our thoughts and beliefs about who we are, are the cause of our outward conditions. The root of depression then, is a direct result of who we think we are or who we think we are not. For many of us, we have been taught that things and what we do define us, and this is the primary cause of depression.
Depression is a result of many things, but all of those things originate from the same root…self identity. Finding and/or creating who we are, are both one and the same. The problem with most and why they can not “find” themselves, is because they believe that something has to give them meaning, and that is why many remain inactive. So it is the same with those who choose to “create themselves”. Understanding that YOU are the one who gives things, vocations and even who you are meaning, makes it more clear on what it means to “find” or “create” yourself.
This is where depression comes in. Depression comes in and strips you of all superficial beliefs in yourself. If you have ever came to the conclusion that life no longer has meaning to you and that the things that use to matter to you no longer matter, you’re on to something ground breaking. If it can lose its meaning, or if it can be stripped from you, it never was apart of your identity to begin with. What lasts, can never deteriorate. Depression is a close friend that is suppose to wake you up to the truth, but don’t let the emotions of it over take you.
The emotions we feel from depression have no other purpose than to remind you that YOU are live. Those emotions are to be investigated, not to be wallowed in. Find the cause of the emotion. Just like with physical pain, you wouldn’t just leave your hand in a location that is causing you pain without investing the reason for it, would you? You would immediately stop what your doing to make a split second assessment of where the pain is coming from, simultaneously as your removing your hand from the source of pain.
Depression has the same function. Look to the source of the pain, learn from it and then do what you must to make sure that you don’t revisit it again. No one sits there and watch’s their hand burn on a hot iron, so why would you sit there and have a pity party when there is something that you can do about the pain of depression. We all have very real emotions, I’m not saying ignore the pain, but don’t sit there and let it consume you either. Use it to your advantage.