If you don’t like where you are in life, simply change it. At any moment in time, you can decide that this is not how your story will go and its truthfully just as simple as that. As adults we have grown out of one talent that is the key to our transformation…playing “pretend.”
What I love about children is that they have no ceilings, the moment that they make their mind up about becoming or doing something, they never give up until they find a way to make it work. Over time as we have grown older, we have allowed the opinions of friends and loved ones to dictate our limits. Our minds have been conditioned by society’s view of what its acceptable. We have been duped into being more scared of what someone will think and say, more than we want to pursue what we love.
Now that we know this, we must stop it. The key to making any dream or goal a reality, is to first believe that it is possible and to visualize the end result that we want. This is where pretending comes in! In order for us to reach our final destination, we must already be there mentally. Literally! Do you ever wonder why some millionaires are able to lose it all and make it all back just as fast as they lost it? It wasn’t that their net worth was millions of dollars…they were rich in the mind first! They thought like millionaires way before making their first million.
For many of us, we have been programmed to think negatively, and we don’t even know it. Have you ever noticed that the moment we think of going after something, we think of all the possible pitfalls and all of the negative outcomes that “could happen.” Being that we are all pretty much adults now, it would seem smart to plan for a rainy day because things go wrong…right? WRONG! Planning for the worst is planning to fail. The only back up plan you should ever have is a plan to stick with the first one and make it better. When you make room for failure, you’re actually popping tiny holes in all of your tires before the road trip even gets started. You’re betting against yourself.
You must think and move as if it were impossible to fail. You must literally believe that life is rigged in your favor and everyone around you has a role to play in assisting you to get there. You literally become what you think about all the day long. This is why self talk and the way you think is so important. When you pretend, you assume the role “of”. When you dress the part, you get the job. Talking to yourself (or affirmations) is not so crazy considering that your mind literally believes what you tell it, whether its true or not. You will act on what you believe to be true about yourself…your words and thoughts are energy, they do have a physical energy. So is pretending, really “pretending”.